Relationships are where our individual psychology meets the psychology of another, creating something entirely new. I draw on attachment theory, interpersonal neurobiology, and systems thinking to understand both the individual patterns each person brings and the unique dynamic you create together. This means looking at how your early attachment experiences shape current relationships, while also seeing how you and your partner(s) influence each other in the present moment.
My assessment process examines relationships from multiple angles – how you each formed your attachment styles, how you communicate and regulate emotions together, and how you've developed shared meanings and patterns over time. We look at both what you say to each other and the nonverbal dance of connection and disconnection that happens beneath words. This comprehensive view helps identify both the strengths in your relationship and the cycles that keep you stuck. Understanding these patterns – both the adaptive ones that bring you closer and the defensive ones that create distance – is the first step toward meaningful change.
Treatment focuses on both the immediate tensions and the deeper patterns that fuel them. We work in verbal and nonverbal realms, developing your capacity to regulate emotions together and support each other's growth. This means addressing current conflicts while also understanding how past experiences colour present interactions. The goal is to enhance your ability to be truly present with each other, to communicate more effectively, and to create the kind of secure, growth-promoting connection that allows both individual and relational flourishing.
My approach fully embraces the diversity of modern relationships, recognising how gender identity, cultural background, power dynamics, and social context all shape how we connect. Every relationship exists within larger systems of meaning, and understanding these contexts is essential for creating authentic, equitable partnerships that honour who you really are.
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